Reasons For Hope

Since we need a little optimism I was doing some thinking and thought of a few things that I should to keep in mind to be hopeful and excited for the future.

#1: I am probably going to graduate from NP school in May

Back when I met Hubbin I was working in research but research doesn’t make very much money. My original plan in college was a career in research which would require me to get a PhD and move on from there — only after working in a lab for a few years, while I liked it, and still miss it sometimes I decided the PhD business wasn’t for me. I couldn’t pick a concentration and didn’t want the rest of my life to be defined by grant writing. I made the decision to go back to school but wasn’t sure for what. Medical school, which is probably what I would have done if I had some better advising in high school and college, was kind of out of the question because of my GPA from college. I never really wanted to be a nurse, but was interested in being an NP or PA to be sort of a mini doctor. So the breakdown went as follows: PA program for 2 years and done but I couldn’t work during it and would need to take out loans for school. OR NP school. To do NP school though, first you need to go to nursing school and a bachelors in nursing is required for entrance. So I needed to do nursing school, get a BSN, then go to the masters program, which would take a lot longer but I would be able to work the whole time.

Since Hubbin and I were engaged and getting ready to start out lives together, I made the decision to go the nursing route, mainly for financial reasons. We didn’t want to take on huge debt for school at the same time we were trying to buy a house and everything. Which sucks. Because I’ve been working full time and going to school part to full time since 2005 (really, with the prerequisites for nursing school – Nursing school actually started in January about 6 months after we got married)

So just think: The ENTIRE time we’ve been together I’ve been working and going to school full time. How nice is it going to be when I will just have 1 job! We both talk about how the best part of being on vacation together is getting to finally spend time together. The thing to be excited about is that the more time I spend with Hubbin the happier I am and the more I love him. It might just feel like vacation all the time once I’m out of school!

#2: I’m going to graduate loan free

Which I consider to be a HUGE accomplishment in and of itself

I have completely busted my butt and dealt with a lot of comments from Hubbin but this is totally going to pay off. I don’t mean it like that per say I mean we both agreed it was the route to go, but it is hard for Hubbin to 100% avoid reminding me that he pays ALL the bills. He pays EVERYTHING, my pay check goes towards fun activities, vacations, dates, and a weekly allowance for both of us. Otherwise I squirrel it away in my savings so I can write a check for a few thousand dollars each and every semester.

Between my tuition benefit from working full time, and choosing to go the cheapest route possible for nursing school (community college) I was able to finish nursing school by paying cash. While I was doing that I took a slight pay cut moving from research to being a nursing aide. But I thought the experience would be important to job hunting (and it was, because I was offered my nursing job in my same department about 5 months before I graduated). THEN I started my job as a nurse and got about a — $13,000 a year raise by moving from an aid to a RN. I enrolled in a BSN-MSN program the soonest start date after I graduated and paid about $15,000 in tuition to get my BSN. So we never felt that raise. The month after I finished the BSN I started the nurse practitioner program and I’m just ending and my bill is $33,000, so the entire time I’ve been working as a nurse we’ve still only been getting the same income as from when I was an aide really…. When I start working as an NP I’ll get an approximate $20 – $30,000 a year raise from my salary now… SO if you add that on to the raise I got when I was a nurse that we’ve never really felt the benefit from me finishing nursing school in the first place. So:

#3: It’s going to feel I’m getting a roughly $50,000 a year raise when I get a new job. (Holy shit!)


(Which I am both excited and nervous about): One of my coworkers in the ER who is a PA now is encouraging me to apply to jobs over Christmas break because the ER company is hiring lots of PAs & NPs right now. EEK! So:

#4: There is the potential to have a job lined up for me before I even graduate.

My friend who graduated last year said no one was too interested in talking to her in interviews until she had passed her boards, but my friend who is encouraging me to apply says they hired her before she passed her boards. My original plan was to leisurely take boards maybe around August after I graduated since I have this awesome weekend only gig at work now which I’ll be sad to leave. BUT this is causing me to need to seriously reevaluate this and really just the thought of taking boards makes me a little nauseated, I’m not going to lie. The plus side is if I can get a job lined up to start in August then I might be able to quit my current job in July and Hubbin and I could take a nice long vacation or just enjoy a long time together (since he’s a teacher).

and PS:

I believe we are a ‘go’ this month for the first unmedicated IUI. I called the clinic to let them know we were planning on doing it. The only issue would be if it needs to be a weekend. The clinic is open but my mandatory 12 hour shifts would prevent me from going in at all. So. Cross your fingers for a nice Sunday- Thursday positive OPK.



So last weekend we flew to Charleston SC via Atlanta (hi Austin!) for a wedding. We had a great time! I did anyway and I think Hubbin tolerated a weekend with my college friends fairly well. It didn’t come to blows over politics and what more can I really ask for? I went to a Super Small Southern School, very conservative lots of very rich southern people a leeettle but different than Hubbind ideals.

One of my good college friends was marrying a guy from college so it was very exciting to me just because there were quite a few people I knew but haven’t seen since graduation in 2003!

One of the highlights was when hubbin informed me that my frienemy (like in Sex and the City, someone you consider a friend that you don’t really get along with) was seriously checking out my ass. Does that make you feel good or what?! I must have said something in response about is it wrong that that makes me happy and Hubbin said “of course not, that’s why I told you. If I bought a porche 911turbo would it upset me when people look at it?” I said “no, that’s part of why you buy it” and he said: “exactly”

So frienemy and I were fairly friendly freshmen year and had lots of cofriends. But he’s a rude drunk and very arguementative. He’s one of those people that changes his opinion on things to piss off whoever happens to be at the top of his shit list at the moment. For whatever reason, I was always at the top of that list. I have my suspicions that he’s had a secret crush on me for at least part of college and I wasn’t interested and that’s why he was always trying to piss me off. There was one specific incident freshmen year that he tried (quite hard) to kiss me while he was drunk and I was physically holding him away. But anyway, it was verrry satisfying when Hubbin told me he was checking me out behind my back 😉

We went to a BBQ at a marshy property on one of the islands Friday night. They had a southern rock/country band with a beer truck and wine. Complete with three bottles of bug spray on the wine table 😉 we certainly partook in the bug spray but at the same time took a photo and chuckled.

Come Saturday night at the wedding reception at a yacht club though, I MIGHT have killed someone for some bug spray!

We went and saw Angel Oak a 500some year old tree that was WAY cool looking. We also did a mini-tour of Charleston on Saturday. Then our flight was late Sunday so we went to Magnolia Plantation and toured around there and went on a swamp tour that was quite neat, but we got a little creeped out by the overwhelming numbers of those big ass Banana Spiders and had to retreat to our little rental car! Lol